Moving Past Your Lower Self – Weston Jolly Ep. 83

Weston Jolly:
Let’s talk about how to move past your lower self. As human beings, we’re rooted in our physical form. Biologically, we’re conditioned to fear things—snakes, tigers, any threat that could harm us. This survival instinct passes into how we’re raised—by our parents and our communities. Quickly, the idea that “nobody is safe” becomes a deep, primal resonance for all of us.

This isn’t new. It’s used everywhere, especially in marketing. I remember learning in college how companies like Michelin would put a baby inside a tire in an advertisement. The message is clear: fear sells! As long as people believe that fear is real. Today, I want to show you how to go beyond the attachment of your lower self.

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Understanding the Ego and Separation

Weston Jolly:
We must be compassionate with ourselves and recognize that as souls, we chose to incarnate in physical bodies. Our bodies protect us, but our minds—specifically the ego—can amplify that fear. The ego acts as a shell that creates not just real, but imagined threats.

At its core, the ego is about separation. When constant messages tell us we’re not safe, this strikes at our root chakra and threatens feelings of security—whether it’s about having a job, a home, or food. The body and mind trigger a predictable protective response.

You can’t force yourself to move forward just by fighting this state. Trying to love or support someone mired in fear doesn’t work; fear always wins out and the lower self takes over. The ego drives the car, creating drama and separation. Mere intellectual understanding isn’t enough; mastery requires living beyond this perspective.

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Patterns of Protection and Separation

Weston Jolly:
Let’s delve into how the lower self operates in daily life. When you constantly hear that nobody is safe—either in the news or in your world—that triggers feelings of separation. This isn’t just about society; it seeps into our personal habits and barriers.

Sometimes, even when you are safe, you don’t feel that way. This happens because your subconscious, “reptilian” brain, has been activated. When you let the lower self have too much control, you create cycles of separation and start to believe you have no choices. This leads to an internal sense of powerlessness.

If you’re grappling with uncomfortable emotions or trying to control your mind, it may seem virtually impossible. Trying to prevent yourself from feeling fear rarely works. Instead, give yourself permission to see the truth and connect to your Higher Self.

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Choosing Connection Over Fear

Weston Jolly:
Operating from your Higher Self means there’s no fight or struggle—no drama over “who’s in charge.” Your spirit or Higher Self will never argue with your lower self. You must simply choose whom you serve. If you opt for your Higher Self, there’s no reason to submit to separation and fear.

This isn’t just about hearing these words. Pay attention to how these energies feel in your body and life. You might go through your day, hear a song, feel a certain way, and suddenly an old fear—an attachment from your past—gets triggered. That’s the moment when the lower self wants to steer the car. If you let it, you attract more situations of separation. It’s a cycle—when you don’t feel safe, your energy looks for more spaces that match it.

When you try to protect yourself at all costs, you can’t receive what life wants to give you. This behavior impacts not just your personal life and health, but your relationships as well.

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Letting Go of Patterns

Weston Jolly:
Imagine waking up next to a loved one and feeling unsafe for no clear reason. Without realizing it, you may put up emotional walls, create conflict, or distance yourself from that person—even if you love them deeply. This pattern can repeat not just in romantic relationships but also between parents and children.

To move forward, focus your attention on who you really are. The feeling of “not being safe” is something learned and chosen—not a permanent truth. We become stuck, orbiting these issues like a moon around Earth, never breaking free.

But the moment you realize the fear isn’t real, the pattern breaks. That’s what letting go means: recognizing the cycle, putting your focused attention on your true self, and automatically moving past your lower self. It’s something to practice, not just understand.

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Breaking Conditioned Fear

Weston Jolly:
We all have biological protection, but we also have learned layers of ego and fear. Being aware of this is crucial. If you let your physical fear of harsh environments become a justification for further protection, it actually creates deep separation. Then, you never find peace within yourself.

Sometimes, our need to present ourselves a certain way—through appearance, status, or behavior—becomes deeply ingrained. This isn’t about age; it’s about the choice to exist as we truly are. That choice is powerful—and not a sign of vulnerability, despite what the lower self or family conditioning may tell us.

For many, this fear is passed down from generation to generation. Breaking free from it is a profound act. You do not need to remain limited.

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The Power of Choice and Affluence

Weston Jolly:
Let’s look at how you can release yourself from the past and connect with your true self. There are many ways—no single right one. Remember, having options (affluence) is the opposite of the poverty mindset, which makes you feel like you have no choice at all.

Even if strong feelings of fear or separation have been repeated all your life—through upbringing, culture, or social roles—you can become conscious of these patterns. Giving attention to the lower self, acknowledging it, and then choosing differently is how you move forward.

When you’re stuck, it’s because you’re holding onto these patterns. You don’t have to. Practicing mindfulness and gratitude brings your focus back to your true self, helping you move beyond old cycles.

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Shifting Into Gratitude and Abundance

Weston Jolly:
Gratitude is a powerful tool. It connects you to your Higher Self and source. While many use gratitude for minor things—a meal, a parking spot—true gratitude comes from realizing you are supported simply by being alive.

Society may reinforce separation through class or category, but these are learned beliefs. When you let go of them, you step into your power. Even immense wealth can’t guarantee a feeling of safety if separation and fear still rule within.

Affluence and abundance come from a connected state. Practicing gratitude and letting go of limiting beliefs allow you to receive more. Your Higher Self is always available—no need to wait until death to access it. The feeling of connection is always there for you.

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Connecting with Divine Truth

Weston Jolly:
Tap into your Higher Self through gratitude and understanding that separation isn’t real. Divine truth never changes; it’s eternal. Connecting with this truth is not about individual perspective but reaching something universal.

As you access your Higher Self, you transcend many earthly fears. You allow yourself to move beyond manipulation—no longer controlled by fear, illusions, or a sense of unworthiness. Clear thinking keeps you connected and avoids the traps of limitation.

Sometimes, calming the mind feels like quieting a fussy baby. Gently remind yourself—the ego is not in charge. Let your true self lead.

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Lighting Up Your True Self

Weston Jolly:
When you open yourself to love, without protection or fear, all of your energy centers or chakras light up. This energy isn’t limited to security at the base or root—it expands out through your whole being.

Test this for yourself. Temporary security from money, relationships, or physical strength can all be disrupted. True security comes from within. When you feel that inner connection, you live in a more powerful and peaceful way.

Moving past the lower self means honoring your history and choices, but also learning to let go—just as you’d turn a pancake over when it’s time. You are not your past. As you make peace with this, you open up to new choices and deeper states of connection, belonging, and attraction.

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Embodying Abundance and Freedom

Weston Jolly:
As you give yourself permission to exist in this higher state of unlimited affluence, you become empowered. Like moving from grade school to college, you realize older patterns are no longer who you are.

Transcending the past lets you access oneness and create genuine connections. People drawn to affluence often have more choices, attracting abundance in new ways. Real-life examples show us this in terms of wealth—like being offered options or investments because you’re already abundant. But this is true of spiritual wealth too.

When you let one fear go, it can topple many others—like dominoes. At the deepest root, all your fears are based on separation. When you cut through that illusion, you claim your freedom and have access to new knowledge, creativity, and spiritual power. This is what it means to move past your lower self.

Congratulations on taking this journey.

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