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Calculate The Real Cost of Your People-Pleasing

Most people-pleasers are shocked when they see the number. Fill in 4 quick questions and discover exactly how many hours — and years — you've quietly given away.

286K+
Hours the avg. person loses
25×
Daily acts of people-pleasing
49 yrs
Of waking life impacted

Your Information

Best estimate — leave blank to use the default (age 9). If it was early childhood try 4–8.

years old
Please enter an age between 1 and 80, or leave blank.
Q2. How often do you people-please each day?

Choose the option that best describes your typical day.

Please select a frequency.
years old
Please enter a valid age (5–110).

Used only to personalise your results message.


Default start age (if Q1 left blank)
Minutes per people-pleasing act
Waking hours per day
Days per year

Your Total Hours Lost to People-Pleasing

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hours
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Years of habit
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Hours per day
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Hours per year
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Calculating…
  • Age you started people-pleasing
  • Years the habit has been active
  • People-pleasing acts per day
  • Minutes per act (assumption)
  • Hours spent people-pleasing per day
  • Hours spent per year
  • Total hours since you started
  • Equivalent years of your waking life
  • % of your total waking hours

How this compares to major life activities

Your people-pleasing
Sleeping (lifetime)
Work (40-yr career)

Your Next Step

Now that you know your number…

Your score:

You've spent a significant portion of your waking life accommodating others. Here's how to start taking it back.

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Calculations are estimates based on self-reported data and published research assumptions.