ARE YOU LOOKING FOR LOVE IN ALL THE WRONG PLACES?
Where are the right places?
During a private telephone session a teenage girl opened her soul confiding with ease her first sexual experience. Her question of the was “does he love me”? The answer from Source was not what she wanted to hear… but it was truth. Another woman from the East Coast whose marriage had celebrated 25 years asked Spirit the same question of her husband “does he love me”? The channeled answer was almost identical to the other session. A man in his second marriage of ten years inquires “does she really love me”?
If you are experiencing love for the first time, already in a relationship, or you are still looking to connect with that special someone you may find that you have been looking for love in all the wrong places. In your pre-human form you are nothing but love. Each one of us who have come to experience this tangible reality on Earth to experiment in perceptions of separation. Some of us spend an entire lifetime feeling separate and distant from this fundamental truth. At the end of your incarnate existence here you will return in the blink of an eye to pure and perfect love.
The game of life and the pursuit of love can be fun or hell depending upon how you create it. Thankfully we all can rest at ease, as there is no Universal judgement in any of our experiences that we have or will create. The creation of a monogamous relationship of tenure is not judged better by the Universal Source than a resume` of the opposite. Each one of us begins our choice on Earth here under the tutelage of some kind of parental authority. This too is a purposeful part of our path and choice to participate in this medium.
Acknowledging our physical beginning is an initial part in our experience and awakening. “What does this have to do with looking for love in all the wrong places?” you may ask. This is the earliest point where we start looking for love outside ourselves. At birth we agree to participate in the illusion of separation and in this creation it is learned that love and affection comes externally rather than from within. Naturally, this choice starts with our physical parents or guardians. Be aware of your choice to participate with your parents as they have chosen to participate with you.
Remembering that many of us have chosen to be born into incarnate families as a means to experience the tangible opposite of who we really are can be very helpful. Many of us have created life experiences that leave our intellectual or lower-self wondering who we are. Your life experiences may be filled with feelings of never quite fitting. Consider the following excerpt from the Ugly Duckling written by Hans Christian Anderson and bear in mind who you are?
The poor duckling was driven about by every one; even his brothers and sisters were unkind to him, and would say, “Ah, you ugly creature, I wish the cat would get you,” and his mother said she wished he had never been born. The ducks pecked him, the chickens beat him, and the girl who fed the poultry kicked him with her feet. So at last he ran away, frightening the little birds in the hedge as he flew over the palings.
“They are afraid of me because I am ugly,” he said. So he closed his eyes, and flew still farther, until he came out on a large moor, inhabited by wild ducks. Here he remained the whole night, feeling very tired and sorrowful. Years later? (Editors note and emphasis)
“Kill me,” said the poor bird; and he bent his head down to the surface of the water, and awaited death. But what did he see in the clear stream below? His own image; no longer a dark, gray bird, ugly and disagreeable to look at, but a graceful and beautiful swan. To be born in a duck’s nest, in a farmyard, is of no consequence to a bird, if it is hatched from a swan’s egg. He now felt glad at having suffered sorrow and trouble, because it enabled him to enjoy so much better all the pleasure and happiness around him; for the great swans swam round the new-comer, and stroked his neck with their beaks, as a welcome.
Realizing the truth about who you are and recognizing your own Divine image means that in looking within you will find your own light filled reflection of love. The largest paradigm shift of realizing one’s true self is that love is not found externally. The need to look for love from siblings, parents, grandparents, co-workers, and even spouses is looking for love in all the wrong places. It is not suggested that you can or will not find aspects of love in these places but real love must be first found (remembered from) within. Until you love yourself it becomes improbable that you will allow another to have access to the inner sanctum of your true beauty. For how can you intimately share with another if you won’t even allow it for yourself? This is a paradox that many of us have created in wanting love and yet not accepting it. It gets better, because of other false basis…, such as “giving is better than receiving*”, many have participated in countless examples of giving love but not receiving love. Regardless of your present relationship status these feelings of emptiness can abound preventing your very desire…to be really loved by another. So what do you do?
I just decided to love myself
After 15-years in marriage with children a beautiful woman emerges when she realizes that she has created a reflection of her Mother and Father’s relationship. Becoming aware that the feelings and projections emanating from her mother (i.e. ugliness) were no longer real or desired she easily claims “I just decided to love myself.” In that moment the everlasting light of the Universe reflects her true image and she is what she has always been … a swan. In that moment she is free to be her real self and all that surrounds her changes. Through her personal awakening she has found all that she has been “looking for” within and consequently all is drawn to her that she has ever desired.
The daring and bold move to love yourself is to reemerge in your true origins. The magnificence in opening and allowing yourself to be loved through your decision to again love yourself provides for a radiance that goes way beyond coupling. The ecstasy so often desired but infrequently obtained is expressed in this choice. The ecstatic adventures in sharing intimate feelings with another go beyond the scope and language of words. Begin again initiating true love for yourself and you will find all that you are looking for is actually drawn to you.
*In universal truth there is no separation as giving and receiving are one. This is easily remembered through the intended example of physical intimacy of sex. During the union of mutual climax it is impossible to separate who is “giving” and who is “receiving.”